Ephesians 6:4

“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

King James Version (KJV)

Other Translations for Ephesians 6:4

And yee fathers, prouoke not your children to wrath: but bring them vp in the nourture and admonition of the Lord.
- King James Version (1611) - View 1611 Bible Scan

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- New American Standard Version (1995)

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but nurture them in the chastening and admonition of the Lord.
- American Standard Version (1901)

And, you fathers, do not make your children angry: but give them training in the teaching and fear of the Lord.
- Basic English Bible

And [ye] fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in [the] discipline and admonition of [the] Lord.
- Darby Bible

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
- Webster's Bible

And you, fathers, do not irritate your children, but bring them up tenderly with true Christian training and advice.
- Weymouth Bible

You fathers, don't provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
- World English Bible

And, fadris, nyle ye terre youre sones to wraththe; but nurische ye hem in the teching and chastising of the Lord.
- Wycliffe Bible

And the fathers! provoke not your children, but nourish them in the instruction and admonition of the Lord.
- Youngs Literal Bible

Bible Commentary for Ephesians 6:4

Wesley's Notes for Ephesians 6:4

6:4 And, ye fathers - Mothers are included; but fathers are named, as being more apt to be stern and severe. Provoke not your children to wrath - Do not needlessly fret or exasperate them. But bring them up - With all tenderness and mildness. In the instruction and discipline of the Lord - Both in Christian knowledge and practice.

People's Bible Notes for Ephesians 6:4

Eph 6:4 And, ye fathers. Parents have duties as well as children. Two are named. Provoke not your children to wrath. Passionate and unreasonable rebukes, intemperate language, or cruel usage, would provoke resentment on the part of children. But bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. The Revised Version reads: "Nurture them in the chastening and admonition of the Lord". Training and restraining as well as admonition are implied. The Lord holds all parties responsible for a Christian training of their children.

Discussion for Ephesians 6:4

  • Chris - in Reply on Ephesians 6:4
    Ann, if I could add here: you're an adult now, but bear in mind that your parents will always look at you as their 'little girl". Even if you were 60 yrs old & they were 90, you would be still considered in the same way. With that in mind, often parents fail to re-examine & revise their parental position & responsibilities when dealing with older, mature offsprings. Consider all the problems so many have with in-laws: it all boils down to, "I know what I'm doing, don't interfere in my family's matters".

    We sense your pain & frustration, even though you should accept that you are NOT insignificant to them, it's just that they fail to know exactly where to leave off their input to you & where their advice would really be needed by you. I'm sure you have valued their advice over the years, especially when you had your first child, but now you're feeling the pressure as their 'advice' still continues to swamp you unabatedly.

    As Adam has noted, we don't know all the circumstances involved here, but any advice given can only be of a general nature. I suggest that when they tell you what to do or how to bring up your kids, thank them for the advice & that you will take it away & give it due consideration (in this way, you are acknowledging their input & concern for you but you are the one who will take responsibility for the final decision).

    You will indeed need to consider their advice & be introspective & ask yourself whether they are right, even to some extent, or whether you need to change or do things differently, or if their advice was completely wrong. After due consideration, you can come back to them & relate how their advice has helped you, or how you have modified it, or in fact how you realize you could do things differently. What you are doing, is showing your appreciation for their concern & advice, yet demonstrating that YOU gave it due consideration & have made the decision & will act upon it. In this way, they & you will respect each other more.
  • Adam - in Reply on Ephesians 6:4
    It's likely they love you and don't show it in a way you prefer. Some parents care much, but show it in a way that can be perceived as overbearing and critical or disrespectful. They may not know they're actions can be viewed that way. So, if you want things to change I think one would need to take a risk and communicate exactly what words you perceive as offensive and be specific. "When I hear you say ______, I feel ____. Can you please not say that?" Go through each word one by one, not leaving anything out. If not in person then at least a letter. They probably aren't aware they're doing anything wrong, so I would at least make that 100% clear in specific detail what you want. If they don't know what you want they shouldn't be expected to do anything differently. Be aware of that they may also wish you'd change something and haven't said it either, so don't be surprised when asking them to change that they bring up something for you to change too. This is just an opinion from limited info. God bless you!
  • Cole - in Reply on Ephesians 6:4
    I don't think they're very toxic... Not saying they aren't but.. Maybe they're troubled inside. I pray that you find the answers to this. And I sure do pray that you find resolution to such an issue. In times like any.. Be sure to remain thankful to God as Job did. He will surely reward you.
  • Adam - in Reply on Ephesians 6:4
    Also take a look at Matthew 13:57 - Jesus had the same problem with his family not respecting him.
  • Emmanuel Mawuli. on Ephesians 6:4
    It is true that any word proceeded out of the mouth of God is True and Perfect. Parents in all, must be an example and in like manner of God the Father so that, we their children may live that life to other generations. For what we see from them as a child that we do. Thanks.
  • AMEN JAY on Ephesians 6:4
    let us conduct our self as a parent at all time because we are like a mirror to our children,so that our deeds might not provoke them but bring them into admonition of our lord
  • Mockingbird on Ephesians 6:4
    Parents ought to be in a prayer attitude to know who to bring up their children It is difficult at times to know how to discipline children. I need to go by the leadership of Holy Spirit to know what to do. The first thing God will not discipline me to provoke me to wrath neither should I provoke my child.
  • Monica D on Ephesians 6:4
    My husband and son stays into with each other. Husband don 't think anybody in the household is right about anything. When you express your feeling a person is lying. Times are to the point of someone getting hurt or dying. I the mother becomes bitches and whores because I know for a fact he wrong. The last one of my children is not as strong as the rest of the family and he tries not to react to things but if you keep pushing him more like provoking him his anger becomes violence and his daddy think in his mind that he is not provoking his child. What do I do?
  • Marjorie on Ephesians 6:4
    I believe this instruction is given to fathers ' to help children adhere to the 1st commandment with promise... honor and obey thy father and thy mother so that it will be well with them and they will have long life on this earth. If one provokes their child to wrath and anger the child is in danger of reacting disrespectful towards their elders thus not being able to be led in wisdom nor compassion... A lack of respect or trust for those in authority.
  • Kevin on Ephesians 6:4
    This verse needs to be adhered to , because if a child is brought up in a harsh household, he she will most likely become like the parent and even show that type of behavior with the general public, making life difficult and hard for the person to get along with others.


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