How do you know that even though a man may say that he doesn't feel the same but comes back to you repeatably should you leave or be patient and persevere because you already know it's meant to be what verse backs your knowledge of this
Hello Mary. From the details you've given, it appears that the man has separated himself from his wife for his own reasons but keeps coming back to her, maybe for companionship, shelter, food, etc. And he doesn't feel the same way (a lack of love & commitment?) about her anymore.
There's no clear Scripture to guide one on this specific situation, except the one that T. Levis has given in 1 Corinthians 7:10,11 that speaks of the wife departing the husband. "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."
One could look at that Scripture in the other way, where the Truth remains the same, i.e. the husband should not leave his wife, where the Scripture reminds us in Matthew 19:5,6 that they are now one flesh in marriage. So, if the husband wants to separate & live away from his wife & yet come back to his wife other than to apologize & reconcile, then the husband wants a 'marriage' that suits him without giving due regard to his wife. The wife would have to determine whether her love for him is still strong enough to permit that type of relationship (I know a couple of women who live in that state of heart hoping for a real love & commitment to return). Her love for him, though painful, might put up with it.
But the woman who can see that the husband is playing her will talk about the matter with him & make it clear that she will not put up with his shenanigans & choose to remain estranged (i.e. no visitation or contact) until he comes to his senses & has real love for his wife. That may or may not happen, but with a sincere commitment in prayer to the Lord for His dealing with both their hearts, in time the matter will be resolved one way or tother.
There's no clear Scripture to guide one on this specific situation, except the one that T. Levis has given in 1 Corinthians 7:10,11 that speaks of the wife departing the husband. "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife."
One could look at that Scripture in the other way, where the Truth remains the same, i.e. the husband should not leave his wife, where the Scripture reminds us in Matthew 19:5,6 that they are now one flesh in marriage. So, if the husband wants to separate & live away from his wife & yet come back to his wife other than to apologize & reconcile, then the husband wants a 'marriage' that suits him without giving due regard to his wife. The wife would have to determine whether her love for him is still strong enough to permit that type of relationship (I know a couple of women who live in that state of heart hoping for a real love & commitment to return). Her love for him, though painful, might put up with it.
But the woman who can see that the husband is playing her will talk about the matter with him & make it clear that she will not put up with his shenanigans & choose to remain estranged (i.e. no visitation or contact) until he comes to his senses & has real love for his wife. That may or may not happen, but with a sincere commitment in prayer to the Lord for His dealing with both their hearts, in time the matter will be resolved one way or tother.
I also think of: Judges 16, Hebrews 13:4-6,
Hopefully these are helpful to your understanding.
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