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  • Grace Mcmillan on Exodus 20 - 3 years ago
    I have a question about honoring your mother and father. I was put up for adoption as a baby. In my thirties I met my biological mom but did not have a connection with her. Do I have to have a relationship with her? Also my adoptive mom abused me physically, mentally, verbally. Am I obligated to her as well?
  • The Spirit of Adoption - In Reply on Exodus 20 - 3 years ago
    You have sometimes thought God walked off and forgot about you; but He doesn't do that. Within you He was growing the spirit of adoption.

    Everything you've endured was to bring you to this day. How do I know that? I was brought that way too. I was the little gray duck in a family of swans.

    Some day, even now, you'll be able to embrace the great work that God has been doing within your heart. Only you know the hollow feeling of not really belonging anywhere.

    In the perfect time, God sent forth the Spirit of Adoption, into your life. His name is Jesus. He is your ABBA. Your Daddy.

    Daddy means as close to his heart as you desire of him. Now write these 2 verses on the inside cover of your Bible.

    Psalms 27:10 - When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.

    Psalms 68:6

    God setteth the Solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.

    You're not a mistake. There is a plan in place for you. Let go of the past, and embrace your adoption and the future. Ask Him now to complete the work in your heart. Get still and listen for the Holy Spirits voice. One of peace; not fear and confusion.

    I'm not speaking out of my flesh here. You are to have this Word now.

    Mishael
  • Adam - In Reply on Exodus 20 - 3 years ago
    Dear Grace,

    I'm sorry to hear you were so badly mistreated. You deserved better and deserved to be loved.

    I believe the Bible has provisions for getting out of toxic, abusive relationships, both with spouses and with family and friends. I have distanced myself from family at different times to reduce negativity. Even though I still love family members it doesn't mean I have to be around them. Some I do not go around because nothing positive comes from it.

    This isn't an exact match to your situation, but at the end of 1 Corinthians 5:11 it says to not eat with (I interpret as associate with) people who claim to be believers but who are living in sin (with examples listed). It doesn't say ignore non-believers, but believers who are engaged in these sins. To me I think this supports leaving a toxic environment. Part of loving ourselves and taking care of ourselves I think will be making decisions to distance from certain temptations, certain people, certain negative situations. Hope this is helpful.

    God bless...
  • Grace - In Reply on Exodus 20 - 3 years ago
    Thank you for your reply. Do I have to honor my biological mom who did not raise me? I want to do my best to keep the commandments but this situation is confusing that I am in.
  • Adam - In Reply on Exodus 20 - 3 years ago
    You can still honor and respect your mom from a distance for the limited involvement they had and not need to be involved in her life or physically around her. That is my opinion.



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