I am almost 70 now and I am having a real problem with being unhappy and that is the last thing I want to be. I can hardly walk because of my knees and I want so bad to make my life and my Wife's life better but I can't do any thing much at all and so I am just very very unhappy! I am a very strong believer in God and his Son Jesus Christ and when I read about them and read this site it always lift's me up! I never thought I would see this day but it is here and it is real and I am sure there are tons of others in the same shape as I am. My Wife gets around really good so I am no good for Her or at least that is how I feel right now! We have been married going on 50 years now and all we ever did in our married life was have lots of fun with the kids and so much fun with each other and now I am just no fun at all for Her! OK I will stop crying now I had just hoped that someone might pray for me and things will get better for us! I pray for help every day and God has really been so good to us and has watched over our Family all these years and has never let us down one time! Thank you all and thank you Heavenly Father! Amen.
While that physical challenge would be an adjustment to deal with and while you can find sympathy and prayers, I would like to challenge you in a different way which God already gave us freewill to change: our outlook and attitude. The fact is life is short and we all have limitations and challenges, some seen, some hidden. Grass is greener on the other side too. You admitted that you had 50 years of active fun with your family- that's amazing! Many people don't even get to experience what that's like to be married like you and many are lonely like me who never found a person to love. What I don't understand is how you think that having a physical limitation automatically means you can't be happy? Who says? Or that it means your 'no good for her'?! Where does that thought even come from? Does it come from God or satan? It's certainly not God, because all are valuable in his sight. Have you seen the youtube video of the motivational speaker with no arms and legs who travels the world and has a fulfilling life? Why do you think he's happy and he's overflowing with blessings, but you can actually still walk but are giving up on yourself? Do you think people who are disabled or in wheelchairs can't be happy? What I suggest is to challenge your interpretation of your condition. Count your blessings, do what Philippians 4 says. Yes, pray, but the best you can do for your wife is to have a positive mental outlook. It takes practice, but you already have power over these emotions which come from false interpretations. You do this by replacing your interpretation with a more positive and realistic interpretation, practice this and thinking how blessed you are, practice having compassion for all the others in this world who don't have as much as you. Learn from those who have found the 'secret' of being content in all situations, like Paul, and the disabled motivational speaker. Don't believe the enemy's lies about your value. You must fight back. God bless.
Adam, thank you very much and I want to tell you that you are right on! I have thought about all the things you just said. Instead of me changing everything I just sit and feel sorry for myself and ask God to make me happy! I also have been really worried about what is going on in this country a lot and I need to stop because there is not one thing I can do about it at all! If we have the Holy Father then we really do not have anything to worry about at all! Thanks again and I am going to try to change the way I look at things now! I wish the best for you Adam and really this is not me at all, I was always wide open and never looked back and now I have changed so much since I have got older! Thanks!
Brother Norman Walker Butch - Brother Adam is directing you right where you need to focus. Your Blessings from God. Your wife, whom You Love. Love her even more. You have a body that still works - okay, not so well anymore, but use what you have. I am right on your heels in age. Greet your wife with a smile and a loving kiss on her hand. Treat her as Christ treats the Body of Christ - with total love. Ignore what is happening in this world, because God has allowed it to happen. He allows and disallows to fulfill the Scriptures. Check the weather, and then read your Scriptures. Pray to God throughout the day. Then, smile at your wife and let her know the love you have for her. Sit down and eat every meal with her. Let her know that your knees are still weak for her. Keep loving God, love yourself for whom Jesus gave His life. You are special, and so is your wife. Love your wife. Keep the Scriptures close to your heart. The time is indeed near for Jesus. God bless your days my brother.
Steve, thank you very much! It is so nice to see that people really still care about others like so many of you all on here! I love this site and in my eyes it is the best of the best! I mean really you all open my eyes to things I neve would think of and it is great just to know people care! I wish the best for you and yours and I will always think about what you all have told me after my prayer! Thanks!! Praise God and when we have him we have not one thing to worry about! Amen.
While that physical challenge would be an adjustment to deal with and while you can find sympathy and prayers, I would like to challenge you in a different way which God already gave us freewill to change: our outlook and attitude. The fact is life is short and we all have limitations and challenges, some seen, some hidden. Grass is greener on the other side too. You admitted that you had 50 years of active fun with your family- that's amazing! Many people don't even get to experience what that's like to be married like you and many are lonely like me who never found a person to love. What I don't understand is how you think that having a physical limitation automatically means you can't be happy? Who says? Or that it means your 'no good for her'?! Where does that thought even come from? Does it come from God or satan? It's certainly not God, because all are valuable in his sight. Have you seen the youtube video of the motivational speaker with no arms and legs who travels the world and has a fulfilling life? Why do you think he's happy and he's overflowing with blessings, but you can actually still walk but are giving up on yourself? Do you think people who are disabled or in wheelchairs can't be happy? What I suggest is to challenge your interpretation of your condition. Count your blessings, do what Philippians 4 says. Yes, pray, but the best you can do for your wife is to have a positive mental outlook. It takes practice, but you already have power over these emotions which come from false interpretations. You do this by replacing your interpretation with a more positive and realistic interpretation, practice this and thinking how blessed you are, practice having compassion for all the others in this world who don't have as much as you. Learn from those who have found the 'secret' of being content in all situations, like Paul, and the disabled motivational speaker. Don't believe the enemy's lies about your value. You must fight back. God bless.
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